Most common sexual problems

Impotence is the failure to achieve an erection, a condition faced by an increasing number of men. In order to diagnose the potential problems that lead to this condition, it is useful to describe what conditions must be present for erection to take place. The first component you need to achieve an erection is a normal, intact male sexual organ. Secondly, a normal amount of circulating hormones is necessary. Third, a man must have an intact nerve supply and blood flow to the male sex organ. Finally, normal erections require a healthy psychological response to the arousing stimuli, coupled with a relaxed state of mind.

If you have experienced loss of desire for only a short time, it may take care of itself. Getting out of stressful or anxious situations may also alleviate the condition. Try to think about what the cause may be for you personally. It could be your partner, your environment, or a number of other factors listed below. If the loss of desire persists, ask your doctor to refer you to a sex therapist who can help.

There are a number of reasons why a woman may not be able to achieve orgasm, some physical others psychological.

Possible physical issues:

   

inadequate stimulation    

medication treating another illness    

injury or accident which affects genital receptiveness    

conditions which interrupt nerve supply to the genitals
Possible psychological issues:

   

stress or anxiety    

relationship problems    

depression    

cultural or religious guilt associated with sex

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Sex should never be painful. If you are having pain during sex, stop. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable, and pain indicates that something is wrong.

In many cases, your partner's actions can cause pain, such as going too fast or penetrating from an awkward position. Never hesitate to ask your partner to slow down or move to make you more comfortable.

Another common cause of pain during sex is the lack of natural lubrication in the vagina. Antihistamines or other medication may be the cause of this problem. Additionally, natural changes in the vagina during menopause may cause a reduction in natural lubrication. Or, in some cases, more foreplay may be required to produce a sufficient amount of vaginal lubrication. Adding a water-based lubricant to the proceedings may help alleviate this problem. We recommend Astroglide. It's a wonderful lubricant with a consistency that most couples truly enjoy.

Failure of the vagina and uterus to respond to sexual arousal can also cause discomfort. The vagina may be too snug for intercourse or the uterus may not be raised so that the penis comes in contact with the cervix during penetration. Use manual penetration to explore the level of arousal before engaging in intercourse.

Priapism is a condition in which a male develops a permanent erection. If your erection lasts for an unusual period of time and is unrelated to sexual contact, go directly to the emergency department of the nearest hospital. Although this can be a potentially embarrassing situation, waiting to correct priapism may result in permanent damage.